As the holiday season comes to a close, it dawned on me that after today, the next time we see a Monday it will be a new calendar year. Whereas in years past, I’d have had my plans for the evening laid out weeks in advance, this year, I haven’t much thought about it. I think that means I’m closer to always living in the moment, but I know I’m not nearly where I would like to be in that respect. Regardless, now is the perfect time for life review and goal-setting, if you’re into that, right? I took the time today to meditate on the past year, my current state and how those two are related, to see how I made it in keeping my “unresolutions” from last year, as well as to reflect on my accomplishments and remind myself how far I’ve come.
I started off by doing something yesterday that I haven’t done in a long while – catch up on reading some of my favorite blogs! It’s one of the best parts of being a member of the blogging community and it’s been far too long since I’ve done much reading on a regular basis. I came across three posts that inspired me to write today in my quest for reflection:
One from Robin over at begin to believe–who upon getting down on herself, created a list of the things she had done for herself and others over the course of the year, and realized she is fabulous.
Another from Kat over at Dandelion Fuzz–who wrote a post about resolutions and goals and asked us all to take part in her Kat Got Your Tongue Challenge. She asks, do we do/make them? Do we like them? Do we want to share them?
The last, from my friend Kristen over at Bag Lady Lulu – who wrote about the one word she chose to guide her year ahead.
I find this exercise even more important today because while I took the last few days off from blogging for a much-needed break, I was reminded of something very quickly. Writing has a huge impact on reducing my anxiety and I needed to get back to it post-haste. So here I am!
As far as reflections go on the past year, while this week I have ranted a bit (offline), when I think about it, what I’ve done and the possibilities, it’s really been dynamic and overwhelmingly positive.
I’m in a healthy, loving relationship with the Man. I have great kids in my life, including my own sweet and sassy, the Man’s young lad, my nephew and my students. I have wonderful family, friends and co-workers. I contribute positively to all of these on a daily basis, whether it be with direct contact, emails, texts, or virtual vibes of support. I wrote a book–a book! A book about using journaling and gratitude to ease anxiety and promote a positive outlook. I blogged more this year than any other and it’s slowly turning into what I really want it and need it to be for myself and for others. I’ve walked for my health, and rededicated myself to a weekly yoga practice (thank G-d for Wed. night classes!). I’ve done all this while being a newly divorced parent. Speaking of which, I’ve managed to co-parent with only a few bumpy spots in the road. The daughter we are raising together, but separately is healthy, smart, well-adjusted (so far…) and I couldn’t be more grateful for that. I don’t get road rage anymore. I mostly don’t get angry over things I can’t control. This is an improvement. I have more than enough of everything to share and that is really everything.
How did I do on my unresolutions from last year? Let’s see…
- I don’t resolve to maintain relationships that no longer serve me. Personally, yes. Professionally, I’m working on it.
- I don’t resolve to stuff my face like I won’t eat ever again. Not a good question to ask after Christmas. For the most part, yes.
- I don’t resolve to make excuses as to why I can’t exercise. Mostly, yes.
- I don’t resolve to give more time to my work than I do to myself or the ones I love. Here, I mostly won big. I was very adamant and it worked. Mostly.
So to answer Kat’s question, I really don’t like resolutions. I have goals but they aren’t related to the new year…and I’ll tell you a few of the writing ones now that are all related to my word for 2015 which is:
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When I saw Kristen’s post and Kat’s I thought to myself, I have ZERO idea as to what my word could even be at all. Then later, when I was reading another blog on the same topic (because I suddenly had a desire to learn as much about this idea as I could,) it came to me. Freedom. I want everything I do next year to contribute to increasing the freedom I have to do the things that are right for me and my family. The freedom to be who I am, to do what I am good at, and to provide for my family.
So, in keeping with that – this blog will be getting a bit of a revamp over the next few months…nothing drastic, just …tightening. My editorial calendar is changing a bit, so keep your eye out for that. I’ll also be putting out an e-version of sorts of my paperback and working another non-blog related writing project. The goal is to put at least 2 books out next year.
So that’s a wrap folks. See you on the flip side…and have a happy, healthy 2015!